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Give Uncertainty More Space and Time
The underlying current that shows up in both the challenge of maintaining appropriate boundaries and creating spaciousness with “and” statements is: Uncertainty.
What’s going to happen if you tell people no, if you stop making yourself accessible, if you stop giving so much energy? What’s going to happen if you admit that two contradictory thoughts/emotions/feelings exist and have a seat at the table?
Oh the security we chase in life! We want the security that being right brings. And we follow the dangling carrot of what’s right until we don’t even know where we are or who we are anymore.
The uncertainty that maintaining boundaries and creating spaciousness reveals is an uncomfortable thing to experience. If you feel it, you’re in a place where your own inner wisdom can be heard, but you’ve got to stop chasing the carrot and wait.
When you Give Uncertainty More Space and Time, you take your eyes off the prize that external validation gives you. You close your ears to the voices weighing in with stories that give the situation so much gravity. You give yourself room to breathe, feel where the breath moves your body, and get curious about the tense places that have so much to say.
When you practice Giving Uncertainty More Space and Time, you build muscles in yourself that become inner confidence and poise as you find security in your ability to hold yourself together in the face of an unknown.
“What’s going to happen if…..?” is answered with, “I don’t know the answer to that right now, and I’m willing to find out.”
That strength is where your inner wisdom can move you; where it can show you your next right step.